Ok, so my fix was good for some time, but it fell apart after some use. It was time to dig out the connectors i bought a while a go and go nag my pops to fire up his trusty Weller...
Now, he's a pro, he's been soldering daily for the last 55 years or so, and he was battle hardened in the dark ages, when you could only get parts over here by desoldering them. But he used just a good soldering iron to get the pins put, and the built in pump to clean the contacts.
I was only useful to chip apart the old connector and sweat
He made short work of this, we were done in about 2 hours. It plays as on day one.