Which BBSs have you visited recently? I actually find the Atari BBSs listed on http://sfhqbbs.org/ataribbslist.php to be like minded, friendly, informative, and willing to help eachother out. We are always welcoming newcomers. Just say "Hi" in a message and you'll get a warm welcome from everyone.
But if BBSing isn't for you anymore, that's totally understandable. BBSing isn't for everyone. It does take some dedication to call regularly if you want to keep up on the messages. We are a chatty bunch on the Atari BBSs, so, if you don't call for a week or more, you can be several messages behind.
-JP